How to raise a confident and resilient child.

Temps de lecture — 3 minutes. I've been a quitter my entire life. Almost, to be fair. When things got hard, I found it easier to quit instead of getting around problems. I missed on a lot of opportunities. But the most difficult things was to live with the idea that I was not reaching full potential. Deep inside, I knew I was talented for something. In fact, I knew to my bones that I was for multiple things. I overcame this problem quite some time ago now. So when I became a father, I naturally decided that I wanted to instill in my child a type of education that will not make him a quitter. Here are a couple of thoughts and tips I've developed along the way.
Temps de lecture — 3 minutes.

Raising a child who is confident and resilient is an important task for any parent. Children who are confident and resilient are better equipped to handle the ups and downs of life and achieve their goals. They are more likely to persevere in the face of challenges and bounce back from setbacks.

So, how can parents help their children become confident and resilient? Here are some strategies:

Encourage effort and growth, not just achievement

It’s natural for parents to want their children to succeed and excel. However, it’s important to focus on the effort and progress that children make, rather than just their achievements. When children feel that their efforts are valued, they are more likely to continue trying and improving.

For example, instead of praising children for getting a good mark on a test, praise them for studying hard and doing their best. This helps children see that their efforts are what really matter, and encourages them to continue working hard.

Help children learn from mistakes

Mistakes are a natural part of learning and growing. Instead of punishing or scolding children for making mistakes, help them see mistakes as opportunities to learn and improve. Encourage children to reflect on what they could do differently next time and to try again.

For example, if a child struggles with a math problem, encourage them to keep trying and to seek help if needed. Then, help them understand what went wrong and how to correct it for next time. This helps children develop a growth mindset and see that mistakes are a normal part of the learning process.

Teach problem-solving skills

Children who are able to identify and solve problems are more likely to persevere in the face of challenges. Encourage children to think critically and to come up with creative solutions to problems they encounter.

As an example, if a child is having trouble making friends, encourage them to brainstorm ways to meet new people and to be more approachable. This helps children develop the skills they need to solve problems on their own and to feel more confident and capable.

Model persistence and resilience

Children learn by watching and imitating the surrounding adults. By showing children that you are resilient and persistent in the face of challenges, you can help them develop these important qualities.

If you face a challenge at work or in your personal life, talk to your children about how you are handling it and what you are doing to overcome it. This helps children see that it’s normal to face challenges and that they can be overcome with hard work and determination.

Encourage children to set goals and work towards them

Setting goals and working towards them can help children develop a sense of purpose and motivation. Encourage children to set small, achievable goals and to celebrate their progress along the way.

If a child is learning to play a new sport, encourage them to set a goal of improving their skills by a certain amount each week. This helps children see that they are making progress and helps them stay motivated to keep working towards their goals.

In summary, parents can help their children become confident and resilient by encouraging effort and growth, helping them learn from mistakes, teaching problem-solving skills, modeling persistence and resilience, and encouraging them to set and work towards goals. By building these important skills and qualities in their children, parents can help their children achieve their full potential and succeed in life. Or at least, we can try to push them to reach their full potential.



Wissame Cherfi is a producer, director, podcaster and author with an expertise of + 10 years in the field of audiovisual production. Ten years that he now uses as a Freelance Creative Consultant to help clients on all types of creative projects. « La musique qui vient de mon cœur » (2022, French language) is his first book.

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